Emotional Investment or Negative Transaction?
How much do we invest in things and people and how much do we see in our returns?
When we pay for goods with our money, we expect to see material evidence of this transaction or indeed a memorable experience to file away. But what if we made a transaction and checked our account to see a big fat zero?
I’m sure many of us would be seeking clarification and feeling rather cheated.
Yet, we invest in everything in life to varied degrees and we don’t always receive the booty.
How many times have you emotionally invested and been left with a big bag of nothing and perceived injustice?
But we continue to do this.
Emotional investment is indeed a gamble. We automatically invest in our families and reap the benefits from support mechanisms and security but what about when we invest in friendship and relationships?
What do we do if the cheque continues to bounce??
Do we feel justified in seeking clarification and interest on our emotional transaction? Is it a weakness or a strength to expect a credit statement? To expect to see our emotional interest rates increasing?
Personally I seek this from my significant other. I expect my balance to remain in credit and I believe that this theory works both ways. I do expect a return in friendships and to see a mutual healthy transaction taking place. We attend our jobs and expect a salary in return. We invest our time in our passions and reap the positive emotions. We gain knowledge and gain personal achievement and development. So are we allowing ourselves to be ‘ripped off’?
Self-awareness and integrity is an important part of sustaining a good ‘credit’ history. To enable a healthy profit, we also need to remain vigilant and consider the ratio of risk to healthy investment. Financially… we do. Emotionally and psychologically we often don’t.
How many times do we support friends and give to others only to feel unappreciated and disappointed?
A satisfactory transaction is a two way process and we need to keep our expectations high. Who wants faulty and non – returnable goods? If we expect less, surely we will receive less.
The link to our psyche is surprising yet logical. Our psychological interpretation impacts on our emotional stance and how we perceive our external world. This affects the value we put onto ourselves.
Make every transaction worthwhile… or simply ask for a refund.
Written by Emma Honca
Illustrated by Louis Honca